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Rest and Relaxation

blue-striped hammock

I bought a hammock! It’s obvious that rest and relaxation are important to our wellbeing. But there is a big difference between “rest” and “relaxation” – something I’ve only just recently understood myself. Relaxation is a state of resting,  but it’s not the same as rest. Relaxation is the ability to slow down and enjoy something leisurely, perhaps by read a book, or doing some coloring. It may even be sitting on a park bench listening to birds chirping overhead. Relaxation is a really important component to daily life, and it involves quieting the mind and body to give it room to breathe. Rest is different. As I’ve only recently discovered, rest is a state of pure nothingness. It’s a…
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It doesn’t get easier…

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I’ve been writing about my experience with an aging/ailing parent lately. I think I’ve hit a point at which I can no longer contain all of the emotions, thoughts, and words within me reasonably. So, I’m writing. Partially to help myself and create some room (because room allows for healing), and partially because I know I am not alone in this experience… and maybe my words can help someone else who feels alone, as I have. A few days ago, my first article on all this was published on The Manifest Station (you can read it here), and it prompted an outpouring of love and support from friends and strangers alike. (Though, we’re all friends, aren’t we? If we’re reaching…
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My Favorite Phrases for Daily Life

I like a good turn of phrase, and I keep my favorites front and center on a sticky note on my computer. Years ago, when I visited Graceland, I saw that Elvis did the same with his favorite phrase (TCB – Taking Care of Business). Two of my favorite reminder-phrases have been on my sticky note for months, but last night I heard a third and immediately added it to the list – and I LOVE it! My sticky note is now like a perfect trifecta of phrases. “Keep buggering on.” (courtesy of #Grantchester) Because, at the end of the day, you simply have to keep buggering on, and if you do, things are sure to change, eventually. Thankfully. The…
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Evidence of Angels Among Us

Angel Wax Painting

There are angels among us. Every day. They take different shapes and forms, and sometimes they appear for only one singular moment of interaction, but they’re there. How do I know? I’ve met them. Or rather, they’ve found me when I needed them. You see, angels aren’t just what we imagine them to be or as we’ve seen in the movies: ethereal winged creatures with some human characteristics like faces and hands. No, angels are better described as moments. Moments that are delivered to us via everything and anything from those ethereal beings to humans themselves. Or dogs. Or birds. Or butterflies. Or anything you come across in your day that gives you exactly what you need to remember who…
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Creating and Sustaining Change: Tipping the Scales

No matter what you’re working on, when scales begin tipping in your favor that is the time to double-down on being deliberate about your decisions, to recommit to your vision, and above all, practice discernment. Double-check that everything you are doing is aligned and reduce or remove anything that isn’t. It’s inventory-taking time, in order to streamline and ride the wave of the forward progress. Tipping scales is not a time to go “hog wild” and “all in” on something. Why? Because if you do, you risk breaking. If you suddenly add more weight to a tipping scale out of excitement for forward progress, it will move too fast and tip over. It will break. And then you must start…
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Words. Words – words – words…

Why are the words we use so important? Do you remember being a child and knowing that there were were words you were forbidden to use? Mostly, as a child they were swear words, but there were also a few other words in my childhood that were classified as ‘unacceptable.’ As I grew older, my awareness of language and the acceptability of certain words grew with me. Certainly, as the advent of “political correctness” gained ground even more words were added to the list of unacceptable language… though, admittedly, cussing was more tolerated when I became an adult. In fact, I’d suggest it was almost expected, like a right of passage. But I digress. The question remains: Why are words…
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Abundance – What is it really?

Abundance is a mind-set. Let me take a step back. Abundance is one of the most subjective words we can use when talking about manifesting (the Law of Attraction) or simply focusing on what we wish to change in our lives. What’s “abundance” for me may not be “abundance” for you, and vice versa. Nobody’s definition of what abundance actually means needs to be the same, and that’s the beauty of it. Why? Because Abundance is a mind-set. Abundance is aligned with infinite possibility. The opposite of abundance is lack. Lack is also a mind-set. Lack is aligned with limitation, as in, limited resources. Limitation leads to hoarding, guarding, and protecting. Think of the animal kingdom. When one animal has the…
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Invite it in, and watch what happens…

When I hung up the new bird feeder outside the kitchen window, this is exactly what I hoped for. Look at this handsome specimen! Alas, I think the below zero temps have frozen the seed block, but at least he knows where it is now, when the sun warms things up. I find inspiration in nature, in everything all around me … and sometimes I invite it closer, like with the bird feeder. Sometimes (most of the time, perhaps), the Field of Dreams adage is the one to live by: “If you build it, they will come.” Make it, build it, create it … it’s all an invitation, isn’t it? Invite it in. Extend the hand, and watch out your…
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What You Do Is Not Who You Are

When we meet someone for the first time, we often ask: What do you do? The response almost always starts with “I am a _________,” which is actually a statement of who we are. But that’s not who we are… that’s what we do. Example: I am a writer, a life coach, an author, a teacher, a therapist… the list can go on and on. I am a sister, a daughter, an aunt, a friend. It continues: I am a woman, an optimist, a lover, a truth-teller. You can see where I’m going. But none of those things ARE me. They are what I do, or they are who I am in relation to someone or something else. And it’s…
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When the mighty fall… do their words fall with them?

What happens when our “inspirers” fall? Do their words fall with them? I was thinking about this recently when I was trying to remember a quote that had inspired me. It was Albert Einstein’s definition of insanity. “The definition of insanity is doing something over and over again and expecting a different result.” I wrongly attributed it to Bill Cosby, because he had once said something that felt similar, yet different. (Interestingly, Einstein may not have said it either, as this brief article explains.) The Cosby quote was: “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” See? Similar, but different. Well, in my mind anyway. I love both of those quotes. I…
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