Monthly Archives: March 2019

Resentment and Intimacy

I was talking with a client about resentment a while back, and we explored how it can creep in unnoticed and then blindside us. Resentment creates a false sense of righteousness, which inevitably leads to more disconnection. That means: you cannot have an intimate relationship with someone you resent.

Unfortunately, unaddressed resentment will always grow. So, it’s even more important to develop an awareness to it and not just brush things under the rug.

The Myth of Desire

If you have to chase, it, convince it, coerce it, or con it… it’s not for you.

This is one of life’s simple truths. Is it always true? Of course there are exceptions. There are exceptions to everything. But the question then is:

Why are you looking for an exception?

Is it because you don’t want it to be true? Or have you actually genuinely tested it and know it not to be true for you?

If you spend all your time pursuing that which isn’t for you – you will always miss the things that are yours, because you won’t be able to see them. You’ll be blinded to their existence by desire.

Desire is a fickle friend, it can lead us down a path of unhappiness that we don’t notice until it’s too late. Unquestioned desire (often created and fueled by external sources) is even worse. It’s a con artist that feels like motivation and hope, but in reality is based in lack and fear.