Category Archives: Blame

#metoo … but “boys will be boys,” right?! Wrong.

I’m frustrated… as you can see by something I just shared on FB. Why would anyone think it’s ok to throw things at animals, let alone goad them into coming closer?!? I know if you ask *most* humans, they would find this behavior wrong and even alarming.

It’s this type of behavior, where many might say “boys will be boys” in response. But what if it’s EXACTLY this behavior that later leads to assault. I don’t see a difference in assaulting a defenseless animal at 8, and assaulting a woman years later. Maybe, in fact, they’re inextricably linked.

Maybe if we didn’t allow this behavior in our “boys” we wouldn’t have an epidemic of it in our men. Maybe if we held our kids accountable for their actions and instilled in them a sense of compassion, respect, and kindness, we could turn this thing around in a single generation. Maybe. I did my part today. I held them accountable. I hope it redirects their ship. It takes a village… together, we can change this.

#metoo #boyswillbeboys #nolonger #accountability #responsibility #respect #compassion #kindness #change #inspired #writerslife

Karma 101

Karma isn’t a “chicken and egg” question. The Universe always waits for you to make the first move.

I’ve heard countless people witness something un-wonderful happen to someone they know (and often dislike) only to follow it up with the phrase, “haha… karma!” But when something equally as un-wonderful happens to them or a loved one, it is rarely described as karma. Rather it’s often lamented as unfair.

Why?

Karma isn’t selective. It shows up equally for every single person, in its appropriate timing. Often I’ve heard people talk about doing things in retribution for something un-wonderful, because… “karma.” As if they (not the Universe) are in control of meting out karmic destinies. What they fail to realize is that the un-wonderful thing was already the karma returning. It could have ended at that point. To keep the cycle going is a choice. What that means is:

You don’t give what you get; you get what you give.

Karma is about receiving what you’ve already put out. Therefore, to continue to put out un-wonderful things is equivalent to asking for more un-wonderful things for yourself. And that’s the key to karma: Giving comes first.

So, the next time you have a decision to make because somebody treated you unkindly or something un-wonderful happened, think about what you want coming back to you later, then give that. Do that. If you want more strife and conflict, that’s a choice. If you want peace and harmony, it’s within your power to put that out there and ultimately receive it in return.

You get what you give. Karma.

What and If

Two (somewhat) harmless words on their own, yet when combined “what” and “if” carry the entire power of the Universe in 6 letters that can be simultaneously destructive and/or creative.

Here’s the difference:

“What if” is attached to the most creative and infinite power of all: imagination. As a tool for exploration and innovation, these two little words open up endless possibilities. Dreams become realities.

However, “what if” when used in hindsight becomes the harbinger of shame, blame and despair. The ‘shoulda-coulda-woulda’ of that which was not done or seen. The hallmark of regret and the key that unlocks the abode of fear within the mind.

Six letters, two words…powerful beyond measure, and what separates how they are used, is you.