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The Personalization of Truth

I have had some interesting conversations recently that gave me pause. You see, I have friends on both sides of the proverbial “aisle” with others who choose not to engage in a system of duality. In other words, I know a lot of people with differing perspectives… and they all believe they’re right. But they can’t all be right, can they? No. And yes. It’s an age-old conundrum proven time and time again in various experiments: show two people the same thing and you’ll get two different explanations of what they saw. (This is my favorite illustration of this concept. I don’t know who created it, but it’s genius!) I remember seeing a video on this concept when I was…
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Shifting Perspective

A bit of inspiration on a Friday morning. “It’s just up to how you see things.” 100% true. About practically everything. This isn’t some trite platitude about the glass being half empty or half full. This is about perspective, and ultimately about the things anyone can do to shift their perspective, for the better (or for worse). This is why not everybody with a camera is a professional photographer. This is why not everybody with a pen is an author. This is why not everybody with a kitchen and some pans is a chef. It’s all about how you see things. And, perhaps more importantly, how you choose to see things and whether you’re open to changing that. 🙏🏻

What I Learned Watching Ants

Today, during my fitness session the coaching assistant said to me, “You’re really stressed. Your body is tensing in random places, while you’re trying to isolate other areas. I think you need to figure out how to get everything to just… be.” Followed repeatedly by: “Relax, relax, relax,” as she jiggled my thigh muscles. She isn’t wrong. There are, of course, many reasons why this is true, not the least of which is the significant gait change I had over the last 3-4 years from a hiking injury (more on that another time, but did you know how INCREDIBLY impactful something as small as a gait change can be on the rest of your body? I do now! But I digress…)…
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The Law of Karma and Wishing Harm on Others

When is it ok to wish ill on someone? Well, the short answer is: never. And the long answer is: never. It’s never ok to wish harm on anyone else. If you do, you’re actually inviting that bad energy back into your life tenfold. Karma doesn’t discriminate in that regard – what you reap, you will (eventually) sow. Always. I actually know of several “spiritual” teachers who have given clients invocations of harm toward another person. Every time I hear of it – I shudder. (Seriously, yikes!) Thankfully, my first brush with understanding this simple truth came from my Reiki grandfather who taught me a very simple lesson: You never impose your will on anyone else. Ever. To do so…
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We Don’t Have Three Feet

We don’t have three feet – so it’s time to stop acting like we do. I run into this all the time with clients, friends, family, acquaintances  – even in the mirror. We seem to think we have three feet… but we don’t. Too often, and we’re all guilty of it, we live life trying to keep one foot in the past (resentment, grudges, hurt, blame, shame, anger, etc.), while also trying to put one foot in the future (hope, manifesting, daydreaming, planning, preparing, making goals, striving, wishing, etc.). But this strategy leaves nothing for the present. And it’s the present that allows us to move into the future with more ease, while also allowing the past to heal with…
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12 Years Today – 4,380 Days

I’m glad I’m not French. No offense to the French, I actually love the country, the food, and the people… but twelve years ago on Bastille Day, our lives changed forever. If it were any other normal day, I maybe wouldn’t remember the anniversary (which is a weird thing to say) of my dad’s stroke. But it’s Bastille Day in France, and I remember hearing the Marseillaise on the news in the airport as we waited for our flight from Dallas to Chicago. Now the Marseillaise is forever associated with my father’s stroke (hence, I’m glad I’m not French), which means every July 14th – I remember. Extreme crisis can do that: take one thing and affiliate it with another…
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Three Days (a writer’s journey)

In three days, I wrote close to 38,000 words. In three days, I navigated the white water of words pouring forth at a pace that was near manic. In three days, I became exhausted (and it didn’t help that I wasn’t sleeping well for reasons unrelated). In three days, my writer’s boat capsized, and I felt I was drowning in the jumbled web of words that spilled out over 72 hours. It took three days for me to release the pressure of the book that had built up inside me over months. The dam had burst, and after three days, the water shifted from a torrent to a lull. I found myself looking around, unsure of what to do and…
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The Importance of Simple Pleasures

Like many people I know, over the last month I have felt emotionally inundated with one shocking headline story after another. My sympathetic nervous system felt under attack, and I needed to do something about it. It’s the old “oxygen mask” rule of taking care of yourself before assisting others, because otherwise, you’re no good to anyone. So, one day, I decided to snap a pic of my silly face enjoying some olives… because they made me so happy! They were a new discovery at my local grocery store, and they were DELICIOUS!! So, I took a picture. Then another, and I found myself laughing and smiling and, most importantly, emotionally lifted. I shared it with friends, and they, too,…
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Thoughts On Suicide

This morning, I learned of Anthony Bourdain’s suicide. On Tuesday, I learned of Kate Spade’s suicide. Over the past week, I have also had friends lose loved ones and acquaintances, some of natural causes, but a surprising number to suicide. In fact, the majority, sadly. Thankfully, because I am surrounded by social workers and other thoughtful people on social media, there have been many posts about mental health, coupled with the suicide hotline number. Not surprisingly, as I read through some of the comments on the celebrity deaths, there were people who chose to speak out without compassion… or understanding. They couldn’t fathom how somebody who “had it all” (aka: wealth and fame) should be mourned for being “stupid enough”…
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The ‘One Size Fits All’ Myth

Life is not “one size fits all.” It never has been, and never will be… thankfully. Our health, our bodies, our faith (to name a few) – they’re all beautifully individual and unique, as they were meant to be, despite Madison Avenue’s best efforts to convince us otherwise. Where we have found overlap and commonality, we have created fellowship or community. But those communities survive (and thrive) not because of our similarities, but because of our differences. Unfortunately, so many industries are built up (and thrive) on this notion of convincing us that we are all meant to be the same, or “within normal limits.” [That’s actually a term used in medicine: WNL, and that’s what it stands for. But…
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